The Power of Words
“Words are pale shadows of forgotten names. As names have power, words have power. Words can light fires in the minds of men. Words can wring tears from the hardest hearts.” – Patrick Rothfuss on the power of words
Words influence, they build, they shatter, they kill. Words should have an age limit, a delayed processing, an honest intention, a well calculated execution. Words are the most powerful weapon in the history of civilization; capable of driving someone insane, or changing a person’s life for the better.
The worst part about words is that people do not realize the power they hold. After numerous letdowns, confusions, mishaps, and overall disappointments, I have a new approach to words: if you are able to use them, they will define you, your character, your actions, and when your actions do not meet those words, it leads to a non-negotiable severance of relations.
I once had someone in my life describe their long, intense, heavy, and powerful words as “word vomit”. They said I should not take these words seriously and to disregard them because these words were purely driven in the moment of emotion and held little to no significance past the moment. Unacceptable.
I urge you to think before you speak, calculate your words and craft them articulately. Feel the passion behind each selection and deliver power with your words. Think of your character on the line, your friendships, your relationships, your conscious, and your worst nightmares.
The minute you realize someone’s words do not match their actions or their words contradict themselves often, construct a little red flag in your head that immediately places that person into a group of people you should be careful with. I am not saying never trust them, but register and examine everything they say before accepting those words into your life.
Is this too much?
You might be thinking, isn’t this extreme? What about small talk? Audience is key. Know your audience. If you are speaking with friends, standards may be lowered since a certain level of trust and integrity are assumed.
The greatest power we have is to listen. Listening is just as important as the construction of words as it allows us to examine who we are dealing with. People who utilize “word vomit” are the same ones who are poor listeners.
My most powerful tool is my ability to listen, register, dissect, and remember every word used by a person. Literally, I remember 95% of what is told to me and I often catch people in lies, dishonesty, and trust breaking situations because I associate words with pictures and can create mental imagery based on phrases and stories that are stored.
I love you. I want to see you. I agree on this deal. You are important. Meet at 9pm. I hate you. You are the best. My favorite color is red. I am going to Hawaii.
You know what these common everyday phrases are? Ammo. Strap up, focus, and use them wisely.