How To Obtain Your Perfect Lifestyle
How many of you get constantly asked about your life goals, dreams, and plans for the near future? How about questions regarding your college major, hobbies, current path, and how they will “help” you in the “real” world?
You know what I say, fuck the real world. We need to be thinking along the lines of a dream world with a childlike innocence that exhibits enough passion to make dreams really come true and enough naivety to ignore the societal confines that lead us down lifelong paths of unfulfillment.
Hear me out. These types of questions often result in semi-complexes where we feel obligated to provide an answer worthy of satisfying people’s judgments and ultimately leading us to scrutinize we find passion in. I don’t know about you, but my goals, desires, path and overall interests fluctuate quite rapidly, but what remains is an underlying vision of a lifestyle that I desire. Call it reckless, but this somewhat surreal picture that I paint in my giant head has led me to avoid numerous jobs, pitfalls, and what seemed like opportunities, that would have ultimately wasted time and left me unhappy.
What is the ideal lifestyle you desire?
So ask yourself. What is the ideal lifestyle you desire? Be bold, get creative, make a story out of it and even throw in some wild cards. It is healthy and will help you analyze current conundrums and make decisions based on courageous optimism…you know that blind optimism we held before the “system” slowly stripped us clean of any. Need a run on sentence example?
When I think of the perfect lifestyle, I catapult myself into my thirties. I am drinking a cafe outdoors in the middle of a weekday at a beautiful European cafe, dressed in elegant yet seasonally appropriate garments, dining on a succulent dish, joined by a group of cultured, creative, and ambitious friends, hopefully an equally ambitious partner in crime, all out together enjoying the weather, discussing our latest project or upcoming weekend travel, in no rush at all, yet progressing and producing.
Cheesy and at the same time dreamy. What does it represent? It represents power, control, and capability. I envision the “Dolce Vita”- enjoyment of the small pleasures of life with just the right amount of opulence, sophistication, and unpredictability to keep my energy, motivation, and overall stimulation thriving day to day.
So now, how can you get to that lifestyle you want? First, you need to be realistic. If you want to be a Ferrari collector, don’t design and pigeon-hole yourself into a job or industry where obtaining the resources to fulfill your dreams is simply impossible. If your lifestyle is location focused, do everything in your power to get to that location as soon as possible.
If you envision a life near the beach, move to the coast and build on that foundation! Why not get to that beach now and design your lifestyle around the core happiness that living on the beach brings? If you want to do it eventually, just do it and figure things out as you go. Imagine this lifestyle design as a giant puzzle where you are rewarded for the small advancements and efforts and can eventually see the full picture, even if the visuals are a little off.
If your vision is largely lacking any type of monetary or materialistic considerations, you are one step ahead in the game. Chasing money is the one common pitfall in all of this. If you are doing something just for the money in order to achieve your desired lifestyle, then the process has been inverted. Time is the most scarce commodity we have in life and it is absolutely pointless doing something that does not a) make you happy each and everyday or b) is in line with your true desires c) on the path of a or b.
I urge you to find a creative place, take time, smoke some ganja, do whatever you need to do to focus, and step back into the small blinking LA Gear Velcro shoes you wore as a toddler and create your story. Be wild. If you want to go to space then go, if you see flying elephants I think you need to put the ganja down, and if you know what is it that you want (even the small things) then build off of those and design it. This is not a rich man’s game, contrary to popular belief. I promise not everyone drinking cafe at a Milanese cafe on a Wednesday afternoon with beautiful friends and in no rush, is a millionaire or probably even close to one.