I can’t honestly say it was my favorite year but damn did it knock some much-needed sense into me with a few well-timed and executed uppercuts. It toughened me up in multiple ways and made me gain an edge of confidence that was previously overruled by a subconscious effort to follow the path of least resistance, especially in personal relationships .
I found myself on extreme highs including great travels to Rome, Paris, New York, Las Vegas, Los Angeles, three months living in Spain, and a some memorable local trips that helped satisfy most of my cultural cravings and cage that ever so pesky travel bug. The lows are not worth dwelling on but to say I was befuddled by a few people close to me would be an understatement.
I learned the foolishness of blind trust, the importance of taking what you want out of life, the relief of removing people from your life, and the perseverance and attitude to succeed. I won’t divulge too many details now but December was life changing when a professional opportunity to do something abroad with a great group of people and team was presented after a previous bout with lower than normal self-confidence when it came to career and prospects.
Life is funny and I would hate to pronounce or declare the future but to follow the notion of fatalism without applying my usual beliefs would be self-defeating and frankly a “L” (a loss for those of you not savvy on urban internet terminology) I refuse to accept. So here it is, my resolution laid out, plastered, and publicized so any of you who catch me slipping can find me, call me out, and make a mockery of my internet antics. Pretend like I am speaking to myself here and remember that resolutions are supporting blocks to positive change and ideally will become second nature along the path of adoption and practice.
Health and Fitness
- Lower alcohol consumption to strictly weekends, ideally once per week. Start 2015 with an alcohol free streak.
- Incorporate stretching and meditation into a morning routine. Spend at least 5 minutes in pure silence reflecting what you will accomplish during the day and stretch to feel physically ready to tackle the world. Also, try to find one more time slot of pure silence to meditate at night.
- Working out and nutrition: keep a rigorous diet (lay off simple carbs, fried foods), continue consistent gym routines, no carbs late at night. Consistency is key.
- Learn a new combat sport such as Muay Thai.
- Focus on continually improving and polishing knowledge of Spanish, French, and Italian via movies, books, music, youtube, etc.
- READ MORE and mix up genres and styles. Actively read with emphasis on structure and words.
- Write down every word in English you come across that you do not know with a definition. Read the list frequently and use the new words in conversation and writing.
- Watch IMDB’s top 250 movies of all-time. If possible, with subtitles, to gain a sense of the screenwriter’s writing style and the dialogue structure.
- Write something everyday. Practice free flow writing (timed writing without stopping).
- Continue to work on a screenplay and write short stories to keep the flow alive.
- LEARN SOMETHING NEW EVERYDAY: how to do something, how something works, etc. Open your mind to what is different and learn the skill enough to practice it without error and teach it. Write down what the next day’s activity or skill will be the night before to stay on track.
- Learn one new dish to cook a week. Practice the dish and perfect it. Continue to develop cooking skills and knowledge with nutrition, food, and holistic medicine.
Personal Philosophy, Outlook in Life
- Stoicism: read everything out there on this subject, learn it, apply it, and most importantly adapt it. Learn to eliminate every emotion that is not productive or positive. Only focus on what you can control and when something unfavorable happens, only think about the process of moving forward. Do not react with impatience, stress, or any sign that something is wrong (key is to eliminate these emotions so there really is nothing to dwell on). This will be your foundation.
- Give more when capable of giving. If someone needs any kind of help, be ready to offer without being asked. Give time, effort, advice, a listening ear, money, or anything else a person needs, even if the person is a stranger. Be thoughtful of details and how little efforts can make a huge difference.
- Adopt a subject matter expertise and provide concrete value to the role and team. Try to stay one step ahead, learn and be prepared for anything. Use “Joe” from the FBI as an example of how to be beyond reliable, extremely knowledgeable, and someone that is looked up to for shear brilliance and hard work. Rewards will follow this pursuit.
- Network. Network. Network. Be more aggressive and always make new connections, even in public and extend international network.
- Continue to dream big but focus on execution now. Realize those dreams and make them happen. The goal is the be an entrepreneur changing the landscape, creating, disrupting, and enjoying the lifestyle that hopefully come with a successful execution.
- Once you notice a few red flags or lose passion in a project, search for something else. Time can’t be wasted anymore.
- This is one thing you can leave up to fate. Continue to have fun, meet people, enjoy life, and do not force or worry about anything greater. You are young, without liabilities or dependents, so use this time as enjoy as many experiences as you can. 2015 is the year of you- focus on self-development, career, and setting up a foundation of greatness without personal distractions.
- Continue to be more cultured, refined, well-rounded, articulate, sophisticated, and overall interesting and have fun doing it. Do not force anything you do not feel. Learn from people, listen, open your ears and eyes. Take pride in appearance and dress, be a gentleman in the most humble and authentic way. Pracitce “Sprezzatura” (effortless elegance and nonchalance) through passionate pursuit of all things that make life worth living.